When it comes to buying gifts for our other half, reaching for run-of-the-mill, romantic go-tos like flowers and jewellery may be intuitive and easy, but the affection you think you are showing to your partner can be lost in translation if both of you are communicating in different love languages.
The concept of love languages was first introduced by Dr. Gary Chapman in 1992. Years of being a marriage counsellor had led him to the intriguing realisation that many of his clients bore similar complaints about their marriage, often feeling a lack of love in their relationship despite each partner trying their best to express love to each another. Eventually, he concluded that it was because people had different ways of expressing and experiencing love according to their personalities — which did not always align in a relationship. Dr. Chapman termed these ‘love languages’ and categorised them into five types: Words of Affirmation, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, Quality Time, and Physical Touch. If you don’t know your love language, try a quiz to find out!
Most of us have at least one preferred language, and knowing your partner's one can illuminate how to show them affection more effectively — including choosing better gifts. To give you a hand, we’ve outlined some ideas on how you can surprise your partner in the ways that mean the most to them, according to their love languages.